7 Tell Tale Signs Your Boyfriend Is Cheating On You

There are numerous signs that will let you suspect that your boyfriend is cheating on you. But here are the seven tell tale signs that you cannot afford to miss or ignore.

Sudden grooming changes: When your boyfriend all of a sudden decides that he wants to look better, then it mostly means more than a change of heart. This usually happens, when he wants to please someone else, who has come into his life and he wishes to influence her.

Acting distant: It is a very common thing for a guy to pull away from the lover, as soon as he gets close to someone else. He may not even be aware that this is happening to him. Unconsciously or consciously, he is slowly drawn to the newfound and his attachment increases day by day.

Getting defensive: It is a clear-cut sign that your boyfriend is dishonest, when out of the blue he gets self-protective, when you ask him questions that he never bothered about before. For example you may ask him a straightforward question like "darling why are you late tonight" and he goes on with a long explanation, how you should know that he works very hard and so on rather than giving a direct answer right away.

Insecurity in public: When you are out there in public, and you notice that he acts insecure, constantly glancing behind and sideways, that's an obvious sign. Take that as a hint that there is somebody in his life, to whom he has not told about you and the other would mind and question if she saw the two of you together.

 

Secrecy in phone calls: Nothing is more alarming than when his phone rings. He is kind of hesitant to answer the call and when he does, he will whisper softly and promises to return the phone call later. When this starts happening, you are almost sure that you are being cheated.

Irritability: In just about all cases of boyfriends cheating, there will be a certain alternation in behavior and you may observe that he starts to criticize you and find fault in most of the things you do. In a way, he feels this works for him, as it tends to justify his cheating mind. But beware of this behavior as in some men this can be extremely opposite, being overly nice and showering you with praises that you may even not deserve.

Being insensitive to your feelings: Perhaps this is the most obvious of all signs that you realize the love you share is fast becoming ineffective, since someone else has replaced your love for him. Your boyfriend may even start forgetting those plans and dates that you two held so dear, or call them off with no good reasons. All this happens, when he no more considers your feelings because another girl has occupied his mind. It could be worse, if you realize that he has not even bothered to invite you to the usual hangouts, which you used to visit earlier.

All these are tell tale signs that your boyfriend is cheating on you and that its time you approached him and openly discuss, what is really happening and decide whether to remain together or part ways.

How Do You Know If your Boyfriend Is Cheating On You?

In the first place, when your boyfriend is cheating on you, he will be more cautious, as he knows his doings are wrong. This only implies that you should train to develop an attitude to pay close attention to finer details, once you have the slightest suspicion that he is cheating on you.

But how do you get that suspicion that he is actually cheating on you? Firstly, do not ignore your gut instincts, as more often than not they may be right. And these gut instincts may come from small things. For instance, the way he picks up his phone can really tell you a lot, if he is hiding something from you. Never take for granted those phone calls, which he allows to ring for a very long time and then excuses himself to pick it up and moves away from you, especially when you are just the two of you in a room. Of course men will always use the excuse that they are "business calls". These are the most common excuses these days.

More often when your boyfriend cheats, he will unconsciously want to compare the other woman with you in the same position. He may suddenly ask you to change your appearance. What he is doing instinctively is that he is telling you, "why don't you dress and look like the other woman?" Such proposals can even extend to the physical intimacy, where you may notice that he may want to try out other sex styles or kisses differently. When this happens all of a sudden, it would be strange and without doubt a very strong pointer that he is cheating on you.

You ought to smell the rat too, when he comes home and becomes more than unusually kind and friendly compared to other days. This is always the result of the guilt one has and tries to cover up. Worse still, if he starts taking a bath soon after he comes home. If you pay close attention to the niceties more likely he will always overdo, especially if he is never all that affectionate. And when you ask him in such situations, where he has been and he would reply "hanging out with friends", and is not specific about what type of friends. If this is so, then you should be dubious and somewhat skeptical.

Finding hair or objects or possessions that don't belong to him is perhaps the surest fact that he is cheating on you. When you confront him with all these facts, and he gets defensive, then you have pinned him down unmistakably. But don't be so sure and rely only on that reaction. Remember, at the end of it, it is all suspicion, and some boyfriends may actually act very composed once you confront them in a bid to fool you even more. If that happens, then pay even more attention to any change in their routine.

It's very wise, however, to always verify your suspicions, before you decide to tackle your boyfriend, whom you feel is cheating on you.

How To Catch A Cheating Girlfriend

It is painful news to know that your girlfriend is cheating on you. But, it will be an equally embarrassing thing to confront her with a problem like this or if you are not sure that she is really doing so.

It is almost certain that she will have a cell phone. A mobile phone today, could be a top player, which could store evidences of a mucky deal left behind in the cell phone. One thing you should do is to check the call log of her phone. Check for the numbers, you are not familiar with and try to know, who were the callers. One way you can know is by using a different phone to call back. For sure the person on the other side will receive the call and you can ask who he or she is in a smart way without raising suspicion. And if you reach the voice mail, then that's a good opportunity, since the names and voice is on the phone. On this voice mail, try to find out the frequency of certain numbers, the calls made and the time of calls. Most of the suspicious calls come in the night, if your girlfriend does not stay with you or the times when she is away or if you stay together. But, you must be aware that cheaters are sharper. They can easily delete the numbers from the call log or put feminine names to their "other boys" numbers!

Another way to check her activities is on the Internet. If you know her passwords, before she suspects that you are checking, make use of these. Check the mails received or sent. If you don't have her password, invest in a key logger that will record all the keys typed on the computer. It will cost you around $40, but it will give you the evidence, you are looking for. If she is using social network sites, that's the best place to catch her. Somehow her guy will be sending her profile comments, which are public to many, or you can go to their sent messages, where not many know that the sent messages are recorded.

You can also follow her or hire a private detective. If she comes home an hour or so late than she used to, then watch her out near her place of work a few minutes earlier or an hour before her check out time and check her moves to see, with whom she moves out or whom she meets after that. You can get your friend's tainted car to get a clear view without being noticed. Take pictures where possible and follow them up to their destination. If they go to a hotel, try to get the room number and pay them a visit. You can do this with any other place too. If the houses have peephole, close it before knocking or make a call to her, while you are outside. You can feel the movements and the phone ringing. If she says she is not at that place, then confront her with the fact.

Just don't be quick to judge, before having enough evidence.